My favorite line from the movie Monty Python and the Holy Grail has been in my head a lot lately. Not only am I, “Not dead yet,” I am actually starting to come up with ways to enjoy the second half of my life. Our eldest child will be departing for college in just under three years (not that I am counting mind you) and her younger brother three years later, and thanks to having had them at a relatively young age (by today’s standards), I will still be in my 40’s when they leave. It is my understanding that 40 is the new 20 or the new black or something other than being over-the-hill, so I can still figure out what I want to be when I grow up, right?
My husband and I co-own a business which has allowed me the flexibility and freedom to work while still being readily available to my children. I am clear, however, that I don’t want to continue doing the type of work I do now indefinitely. There are a lot of things I think I’d like to do, how I whittle down that list and get in front of the people who can help me is part of what I have to figure out.
According to a 2008 study on midlife, we are happy when we are young and old but pretty miserable right in the middle. I think that must have been before 40 became the new 20. I do agree that I have to work a bit harder to make sure I don’t lose sight of the things that make me happy. I also need to define interests and goals that I have that are outside of my role of mom and wife. One way I have done this is by making the most of every and all opportunities that come even close to my way. I joined the Marketing and Communications Committee at my children’s school so I can learn more about those topics and have taken it upon myself to learn as much as I can about Web 2.0 and the social media world. I am also trying to not be lazy when it comes to going out with friends or attending events where I might meet new people. I am, as we used to say, “putting myself out there” and must admit that good things have happened as a result.
The latest sign that I am not dead is that I was selected to be a guest DJ on a local alternative radio station here in San Diego. I worked as a DJ for four and a half years while attending the University of Georgia and now, exactly 20 years later, I will be on the air again. I am definitely not dead yet, in fact, I might just be getting bettah.