“Life isn’t a matter of milestones but of moments” ~ Rose Kennedy
Someone in my family is celebrating a milestone birthday today. I use the word celebrate very loosely, not sure he is actually happy about it. Birthdays can be tricky. The older I get, the more I understand that not everyone wants to put on the party hat. I get that, I don’t always feel like donning it myself.
So, this year, rather than throwing what has become a once-a-decade surprise party, I decided to honor the wishes of the celebrant and take a low-key approach. As is the norm, I bought him a few gifts and will make a special meal or two. I did one other thing, though, something that I haven’t done before. I came up with a list of: (insert milestone age) things I like, love, enjoy and admire about you! Coming up with that list actually did a lot for me. After 22 years of being part of a couple (almost 19 of it married) I don’t always focus first on the things I like, love, enjoy and admire about him. And when I do, I sometimes forget to share them. This was a good exercise–I highly recommend it.
In honor of my husband’s birthday, I am posting a video from his favorite band ever. XTC. I admire the fact that he has remained loyal to them for this long. I like (yes, like) listening to him sing their songs. I enjoy hearing him talk about them. And I love that I can almost always find something related to them to give him as a gift.
Happy birthday R.! The moments have definitely trumped the milestone.
Do you always enjoy celebrating your birthday, regardless of which one it is?